Keep The Passion In Your Sex Life - Men over 40

Keep The Passion in your Sex Life – Men over 40
by Wolfdave

As your relationship matures, it’s important to give some extra attention to your sex life. Just as in any other part of your relationship, it is important to talk to your partner to keep the passion in your sex life alive. You and your partner may not have the same desire for sex as often as you use to do. But this does not mean the passion has gone.

In the early days of your relationship, sex was a world of intimacy and discovery. But as time moves on, children come along; you pursue your careers and manage household chores. And so you sex life gets neglected. Of course you still love each other and you both still have desires for sex. But once you get out of the habit of a sexual relationship it can be difficult to get it back again. The first step is to talk to each other. You obviously talk about every other aspect of your relationship such as; careers, household budget, your child’s school and the like. So it is just as important to talk openly about your sex life, in many cases it can actually bring your even closer together.

Just pick the right moment, not right after sex when your hormones are all over the place. Reassure your partner that you still love them, and then talk about your feelings and desires. Ask them for their thoughts and listen to what they have to say. If they are not ready to talk right now, then drop the matter, don’t push it. Just ask if they would please think it over and let you know their thoughts some time soon.

Many sexual relationship therapists recommend you watch a good sex video if the passion has faded from your relationship. You will probably discover that sex does not have to be about penetration every time. Instead, start by enjoying being in each others company. A kiss and cuddle on the sofa for instance. Make sure your partner understands it’s just a kiss and a hug and not a play for sex! Be more sensual with your partner. Touch each other and undress each other. A massage is a great way to explore each others bodies, or take a bath together, but still remember to talk and tell each other what you like. Even if you think you know all there is to know about each other, it is always worth trying something new.

It is perfectly normal as you get older for one or both of you to want less sex than you used to do. Be open about this to your partner and you can then work together on alternatives. Nearly all women like romance in their lives, so even if they have lost a little sexual appetite it is so important to be a ‘Knight In Shining Armour’ once in while. A few sincere romantic gestures could just be the spark that will re-light her passion.

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Improve Your Sex Life

How To Improve Your Sex Life
by Wolfdave

If the passion has faded from your sex life, you need to take steps to make it better. More than any other part of your relationship, your sex life needs special care to help keep the passion alive. While every couple is different, there are several common issues that can cause relationship difficulties.

Talking openly with your partner is essential to a healthy relationship. Talking to your partner about your sexual relationship is equally important. Sex would be a whole world of discovery and fun in your early days as a couple, but as time moves on and other demands of life, like children and careers, come along, it is so easy to neglect your sex life. In today’s modern life it can be easy to get out of the habit of having sex with your partner. And the longer this goes on, the harder it is to rekindle this part of your relationship. Of course you still love each other, but you need to talk, to understand each others needs and desires, and find out if there are any problems that need to be discussed.

If you don’t talk about it, how will you ever know how your partner feels? Not talking about it can lead to a distance between you and your partner, as you both wonder what the other thinks about your sex life or perhaps lack of it. Then your imagination starts to take over and you amplify the problem into something much bigger than it really is. It can be difficult for some men to talk about sex with their partners, but you can do it, just pick the right moment. Not right after love-making! Start by asking your partner how they feel about your sex life, and then listen to what they have to say. Let them know your feelings and reassure them that you still love them. If they are not ready to talk right now or appear shocked by your question, drop the subject for now. Give them time to think things over in their own mind, then after a few days, ask if they have had any thoughts on your question.

Do not push the issue. If they have nothing to say ask if there is anything that you are doing wrong or could do better to improve your sexual relationship. Tell them you don’t need an answer right now, but would appreciate their thoughts some time soon. Once your partner starts to talk, make sure you pay attention and listen! Most women love to talk, but as all us Guys know, they get really upset if we do not listen properly. So don’t interrupt and don’t say anything until she has finished and then thank her for sharing her thoughts with you. Then you can tell her your thoughts and feelings. As we age, some people want sex much less than they used to, this is normal. Communication is the only way to maintain a healthy relationship.

Maybe her idea of a satisfying sex life has changed over time. It should never only be about intercourse. Take time to be more sensual and enjoy all the feelings you can share together. A gentle massage is a perfect way to explore each other’s bodies. Have a bath together or just a kiss and cuddle on the sofa. Perhaps watch a video on having a good sex life. And keep talking, find out what they like and don’t like. Tell them your likes and dislikes, get to know each others bodies and what feels good. It can also be a good idea to have a discussion about your whole relationship. This will identify any other areas that could be improved such as going out more and socialising as a couple.

If nothing seams to help your relationship, then the next step to consider would be Relationship Therapy. Here you would receive counselling from therapists who specialise in helping couples. They may offer new techniques to try in your relationship, especially if you both think sex has become boring. Do make sure you visit a fully qualified professional. Your own doctor may be able to refer you to one. It is worth talking to your doctor anyway just in case one of you has a medical condition or is taking medication which may be affecting your sex drive.

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Lovemaking Tips

500 Lovemaking Tips ­ Book Review

One of the biggest challenges couples in long-term relationships face is trying to keep their lovemaking red, hot and steamy. Early on in a relationship, the passion and newness of your lovemaking is always unforgettable; but, as that initial magic fades, it becomes harder to make things exciting again.

So is “500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets” by acclaimed author Michael Webb the right book to bring back the fire? Here’s my take on it.

The book begins with a general foundation and understanding on lovemaking, briefly discussing topics like bedroom toys, adult films, the importance of romance for lovemaking, and interesting truths about Kama Sutra. It also contains a lubrication guide and 16 fully illustrated lovemaking positions in the back of the book. These are all nice touches, but the main attraction and bulk of the book is the 500+ tips.

I have to say, I really LOVE that you can open the book, pick a page and have between 8 ­ 10 easy-to-read tips ready to inspire or use right away. No need to read through dozens of long-winded paragraphs. Everything is formatted neatly and is very easy on the eyes. This is a big plus when you’re just about to make love spur-of-the-moment and you want some ideas.

So, what about the actual tips themselves?

This book is a treasure chest of ideas. It has 539 tips in total. They range from oral sex tips for both men and women, to games you can play to make foreplay more fun (although I would have loved to see more games). It also has tips to make intercourse feel better and unique, ways to surprise your partner like “coming out of the shower with just a towel and playing with your wife,” and even some cool places to make love that most people would never have thought of. While I didn’t find all the tips exciting (which was expected), I found more than enough that appealed to me.

The tips are all mixed together, which can get a little overwhelming. I recommend you skim through the book a few times rather than trying to read the whole thing in one sitting.

This book also lives up to its promise of not containing any raunchy, degrading, immoral or perverted ideas that so many lovemaking books seem to have.

In conclusion, while not all the tips in the book amazed me and I would have been nice to see some more ‘games’, it’s still THE most complete book of tips and ideas on improving lovemaking I’ve ever read. Nothing else comes close. All in all, I found it very enjoyable to read and use :) So if you want to make your lovemaking exciting again or even if you just want some tips for more pleasure, then I highly recommend this book for you.

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Treatments To Increase Penis Size

TREATMENTS TO INCREASE PENIS SIZE
by Wolfdave

Many men consider the size of their penis is too small. However, many studies have found that the majority of men, who think they have a small penis, actually have an average size penis. There seams to be a widespread belief amongst modern man that a bigger penis would be better. A study of women, on the other hand, finds they are puzzled by this masculine obsession. In fact, some women dislike the thought of a large penis and admit to being put off, by one that is too long.

But no matter how often it is written or said, that size doesn’t matter, the average man still thinks that, more would be better. So what would be an average penis size? Repeated studies from around the world show the average length for a non-erect penis is 3-4 inches. Several factors can temporary cause shrinkage of two or more inches, cold weather, for instance or swimming. So a precise measurement has no value and you should not worry if you fall short of the average. It is of course a fact that some men have small penises and some have bigger ones. Experts all agree that the measurement of a penis is not an index or virility.

What treatments are available? It is recommended that you see a consultant urologist before undergoing any surgery. Your first step is to see your doctor.

There are two main surgical techniques to increase penis size. The first one is designed to make your penis look more bulky by increasing its girth. This is done by injecting fat, taken from your own body, into your penis. Silicone is sometimes used instead of fat. Claims of up to, one and a half inches extra width to your penis is usual for this technique. This operation can lead to complications and may not work. The second option involves slicing through the ligaments supporting your penis. This makes the penis dangle more to make it look longer. Sometimes the ligaments are stretched and then put back. Results for this technique usually show an increase of around 1 inch but will make no difference to the size when erect. In fact it will not be able to come up as high as before the operation. Both techniques carry a risk of complications such as, bleeding, infection, impotence and deformity.

Penis stretchers (extenders)

Some urologists are now starting to use this method to stretch the penis. You wear a small rectangular frame on your penis for several hours every day. The idea is to pull your penis to its maximum length so that it will gradually remain longer. The devices are undetectable under your trousers. Several reports from Italy suggest a modest increase in length of around three-quarters of an inch after wearing the device for four months. These devices cost around $200.

Penis Pump

This technique involves placing your penis in a tube and pumping out the air to create a vacuum. This will then increase blood flow to your penis. This technique will not increase the size of your penis and any swelling of the girth will be temporary. Overuse of the pump can lead to tissue damage.

Weights and stretching exercises.

This technique involves weights being placed on your penis; you then carry out some stretching exercises. This can lead to damage to your penis and is probably quite futile.

Herbal pills, patches and ointments.

There are many herbal penis enlargement pills and potions on the internet. However, many of these are unregulated products and could be dangerous. A recent analysis by The University of Maryland on some of these products found traces of lead, pesticides, bacteria and animal faeces. There is no clinical evidence to support these products and they are probably a waste of time.

Self Help

There are several things you can do to improve the appearance of your penis and make you generally feel better about your self. Get in shape by taking regular exercise, you will lose some flab from your belly and boost your own well being. Lose weight, again to reduce your belly hanging over your penis. If you have a lot of pubic hair this can make your penis look small, trim the pubic air around your penis, carefully! This will also improve the sensual feel during intercourse.

There is an eBook available entitled, Exercising The Penis. You can find out more and download this book, HERE

Problems with Sex: Small Penis

Problems with Sex: Small Penis
by Wolfdave

Many men consider the size of their penis is too small. However, many studies have found that the majority of men, who think they have a small penis, actually have an average size penis. There seams to be a widespread belief amongst modern man that a bigger penis would be better. A study of women, on the other hand, finds they are puzzled by this masculine obsession. In fact, some women dislike the thought of a large penis and admit to being put off, by one that is too long.

But no matter how often it is written or said, that size doesn’t matter, the average man still thinks that, more would be better. So what would be an average penis size? Repeated studies from around the world show the average length for a non-erect penis is 3-4 inches. Several factors can temporary cause shrinkage of two or more inches, cold weather, for instance or swimming. So a precise measurement has no value and you should not worry if you fall short of the average. It is of course a fact that some men have small penises and some have bigger ones. Experts all agree that the measurement of a penis is not an index or virility!

So what about the average size when erect? Men who have a small penis can usually achieve a 100% increase in length when erect. Whereas a man with a larger penis, will increase his length by around 75%. This means that penises generally, are all much the same size when aroused. So despite any feeling of inadequacy, the guy with a small penis has built-in compensation, to bring him up to size. This brings us to the figures for an erect penis. The majority reach between 6-7 inches, with 6.5 inches being the average. 5 inches is still more than adequate when you consider a woman’s vagina, who hasn’t yet had a child, is only 3 inches long, extending to around 4 inches when sexually aroused. So, well hung guys, have no advantage whatsoever with the majority of women.

So only a penis less than 3 inches when erect would be considered unusually small. If you are worried or lack confidence due to the size of you penis, the first thing to do is go and see your doctor. If you are embarrassed to talk to your doctor, most health authorities have web sites where you can discuss your problem anonymously with an on-line expert. Do make sure it is a professional medical site, there are many on-line, and some of these are run by quacks.

Options to increase penis size include two surgical operations. These operations can be expensive and can carry complications such as bleeding, infection or deformity. The first technique involves injecting your own fat, sometimes silicone, into your penis to increase the width and make it more bulky. The other option involves the ligament supporting your penis. This is sliced through to make the penis dangle more. Sometimes the ligaments can be stretched and put back in position. It is recommended that you go and see a consultant urologist; your doctor will be able to refer you to one, before you agree to undergo any surgery. Some urologists are now starting to use penis stretchers. These are small rectangular frames. You ware them on your penis for several hours every day to pull your penis out to its maximum possible length. Some early claims from Italy, from men having worn this device for four months, report an average increase of three-quarters of an inch.

There are many web sites offering herbal pills and ointments to increase penis size. Many of these are unregulated products. The University of Maryland carried out analysis on some of these herbal products and found traces of lead, pesticides, e.coli bacteria and animal faeces. Seek professional medical advice before using any treatments.

There is an eBook available entitled Exercising The Penis. You can find out more and download this book, HERE

Erection Problems

Problems with Sex: Erections
by Wolfdave

An erection problem, or, Erectile Dysfunction, is the inability to achieve and maintain an erection during sexual intercourse. It is a common sexual problem. In the main, it tends to affect men over 40 years of age. It is estimated that half of men over 40 will experience erectile dysfunction at least once. Some men can gain an erection during foreplay but lose the erection before or soon after intercourse.

In many cases the problem is temporary due to over tiredness or stress, and will return to normal without treatment. However, if the condition persists, it can damage a man’s confidence and lead to problems in his relationship. In this case, medical treatment or counselling from a sex therapist is required. Possible physical causes can include: Heart disease, low levels of testosterone, high blood pressure, diabetes and hormonal problems. Psychological causes can include: Stress, depression, anxiety and problems with a relationship. In some cases, it’s just a matter of making changes to your lifestyle. Regular exercise for instance, or losing weight. Stop smoking and cutting down on alcohol. Some men may require medication such as Viagra.

If you are unable to obtain an erection at all, then a physical condition is the most likely cause. If, on the other hand, you sometimes have an erection when you wake up in the morning, or you can obtain one before sexual intercourse, then a psychological problem is the probable cause. An erection requires interaction between your brain, hormones, nerves and blood vessels. A problem can occur if this interaction is disrupted in some way. Stress or depression, even over tiredness can make it harder for your brain to trigger an erection. As can changes to your hormone levels.

So, health conditions that affects your blood flow, nervous system, hormone levels or the physical condition of your penis, can cause erection problems. Common causes include: Heart disease, poor blood circulation, high blood pressure, diabetes, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s disease, spinal injury, tumours, low production of testosterone, over-active or under-active thyroid gland, Peyronie’s disease (affects the tissue of the penis), medications, steroids, smoking and alcohol. Consult your doctor if you think a prescribed medication is the cause of erectile dysfunction. Do not stop taking medication without first talking to your doctor.

Erection problems can also be caused by psychological factors. These can include: Stress, tiredness, depression, anxiety, relationship problems. Other possible causes can be: Smoking, alcohol, obesity, using drugs. Even cycling can affect the nerves in your penis, if you spend a lot of time in the saddle. Your first step to overcoming erectile dysfunction is to visit your doctor. He will discuss your symptoms, your lifestyle and your overhaul physical health. He may take blood tests to check for abnormal hormone levels. If the problem is permanent, then a physical cause is the most likely reason. If your problem only occurs when you are attempting sexual intercourse with your partner, then this would suggest a psychological cause.

The treatment for erection problems will depend on the underlying cause. If an underlying health condition is identified as the cause, then that condition may need to be treated first. In some cases, treatment for a health condition can resolve the erection problem. Some of the many treatments available today, include: Self Help – Losing weight, giving up smoking, taking exercise, cutting down alcohol use, not using drugs. PDE-5 inhibitors – Are widely used to treat erection disorders, this medication temporarily increases blood flow to your penis. Several versions of PDE-5 inhibitors are available; they vary from being effective for about four hours to some that last for over 24 hours.

PDE-5 inhibitors should not be taken by people with a high risk of coronary heart disease, and should never be used if you are taking medications containing organic nitrates. They can also be a risk to people who have suffered a recent stroke, low blood pressure, high blood pressure. Your doctor will advise you of any risk. Side effects can include: Headaches, hot flushes, back pain, blocked nose, indigestion.

If your erection problem is found to be caused by a hormonal condition, you may be offered injections of synthetic hormones. This would be carried out by an endocrinologist, health specialist. A penis pump is another method used to treat erection problems. This is a simple tube connected to a pump; you place your penis in the tube and pump out all the air. The vacuum this creates causes blood to rush to your penis, the blood is kept in place by placing a rubber ring around the base of your penis; this should allow you to maintain an erection for 30 minutes. If all treatments have failed to improve your problem, then surgery may be required to check for blockages to the blood supply of your penis.

You may be referred for counselling if psychological factors are thought to be the primary cause. This is usually, relationship therapy, where both you and your partner can discuss sexual or emotional concerns that may be contributing to your problem. Your counsellor will also discuss basic practical sex advice so that you may improve your sex life.

This article is intended as a guide only. Always seek professional medical advice to find the best treatment for you.

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Sexual Problems: Ejaculation Techniques

Problems with Sex: Ejaculation Techniques
by Wolfdave

Ejaculation is the squirting out of semen during sex (sexual climax). There are three main ejaculation problems which are quite common. These being: Premature Ejaculation, Delayed ejaculation and Retrograde ejaculation. The one which 30% of men experience at some time in their life is premature ejaculation or PE. This is when you come too quickly during sexual intercourse. Delayed ejaculation affects around 5% of men. This is when you want to ejaculate during sex but fail to climax. Retrograde ejaculation is a rarer condition. This is when you experience the feeling of an orgasm, but there is little or no semen. This article focuses on Delayed ejaculation techniques. You should always seek professional medical advice before taking any medications, creams or using new techniques.

Stop – start method: Most women do not need the man to thrust deeply and endlessly for their own sexual pleasure. Instead, they prefer fondling and love play with gentle penetration. The stop – start technique attempts to alter the man’s sexual behaviour. The man is encouraged to masturbate, to better understand his feelings and sensations and gain more control. He will masturbate alone to a point just before ejaculation, and then stop. This is repeated twice more, on the fourth attempt he is allowed to ejaculate. This technique will allow the man to learn how to prolong intercourse and does not normally need help or advice from a sex therapist unless psychological factors also exist.

Self distraction: This technique requires a little practice and imagination. During sexual intercourse, if you feel a climax is near, take a deep breath and think of something boring. Something very boring if possible like, mowing the lawn or stacking bricks. Anything to distract you for a few moments until the feeling of a climax has passed, and then you can continue. Once again, this technique should not need guidance from a therapist. Just use your imagination and have several boring thoughts ready.

Squeeze Method: This method can be done by you or your partner, although it is the partner who is perhaps best able to get a grip of it. (Pardon the pun). When the man feels that ejaculation is near, the partner squeezes the tip of the penis for 10 – 20 seconds. Once the feeling as subsided, wait another 20 seconds or so before continuing. This is then repeated until you want ejaculation to happen. It is possible to use this method with the stop-start method as well, and can be fun. Practice makes perfect. If you are not quite sure of the exact squeeze technique, a sex therapist will be able to help.

More Foreplay: This does not necessarily prevent premature ejaculation, but your partner will at least have some stimulation, and again, with a bit of practice orgasm and ejaculation can be achieved more or less at the same time. Being good at sex is more than just having intercourse, and takes time and practice. Sex therapists are experts, if you need help and advice, don’t be afraid to ask for it.

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Problems with Sex: Ejaculation

Problems with Sex: Retrograde Ejaculation
by Wolfdave

Ejaculation is the squirting out of semen during sex (sexual climax). There are three main ejaculation problems which are quite common. These being: Premature Ejaculation, Delayed ejaculation and Retrograde ejaculation. The one which 30% of men experience at some time in their life is premature ejaculation or PE. This is when you come too quickly during sexual intercourse. Delayed ejaculation affects around 5% of men. This is when you want to ejaculate during sex but fail to climax. Retrograde ejaculation is a rarer condition. This is when you experience the feeling of an orgasm, but there is little or no semen. This article focuses on Retrograde ejaculation. You should always seek professional medical advice before taking any medications or using new techniques.

Retrograde ejaculation is a condition where, instead of sperm squirting out of the end of the uretha, it travels backwards into the bladder. You experience the feeling of an orgasm but little or no semen is produced. This is a rarer type of ejaculation problem and the condition does not pose any danger to your health, but may affect your ability to have a baby. A lot of men may experience this problem occasionally. A possible sign of this condition is cloudy urine immediately after sex, because of the presence of semen in it. See your doctor if you feel this problem is severe or ongoing.

Retrograde ejaculation can be caused by nerve or muscle damage to the neck of the bladder. This can stop the neck of the bladder from closing, causing the semen to enter the bladder rather than travel up the uretha. This is the tube that carries urine through the penis from the bladder. Surgery to the prostate gland is a common cause of this problem. Diabetes and multiple sclerosis are other known causes. Alpha blockers, used to treat high blood pressure, can also contribute to this condition.

Most men do not require medical treatment for retrograde ejaculation, there is no adverse affects to their health and they can still enjoy sexual activity. If treatment is recommended by your doctor, medicines can be used to strengthen your bladder neck muscles. If however, muscle or nerve damage is severe, due to injury for example, then treatment may not prove effective. If this is the case and you wish to father children, then sperm can be taken from your urine for use in IVF.

The Ejaculation Trainer offers help and advice to overcome ejaculation problems. Find out more HERE

Problems with Sex: Delayed Ejaculation

Problems with Sex: Delayed Ejaculation.
(Can’t come during sex)
by Wolfdave

Ejaculation is the squirting out of semen during sex (sexual climax). There are three main ejaculation problems which are quite common. These being: Premature Ejaculation, Delayed ejaculation and Retrograde ejaculation. The one which 30% of men experience at some time in their life is premature ejaculation or PE. This is when you come too quickly during sexual intercourse. Delayed ejaculation affects around 5% of men. This is when you want to ejaculate during sex but fail to climax. Retrograde ejaculation is a rarer condition. This is when you experience the feeling of an orgasm, but there is little or no semen. This article focuses on Delayed ejaculation. You should always seek professional medical advice before taking any medications or using new techniques.

Delayed ejaculation is when you have a normal erection, but can’t reach a climax and ejaculate, even though you want to. Some medications and certain health conditions can contribute to this problem. However, in most cases the causes tend to be psychological. If you can maintain an erection and are receiving satisfactory stimulation, you want to ejaculate but are unable to do so, then delayed ejaculation could be your problem. If you reach a climax during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse, then this could be caused by feelings of anxiety, or guilt.

Other psychological causes could be: Sexual trauma – a traumatic sexual experience at an early age, being caught out having sex, masturbating or, more seriously, sexual abuse. Strict upbringing – Being raised in a strict family, where sex is regarded as sinful or only appropriate after marriage. Relationship problems, Overtired, stress and depression. Try having your partner keep some clothing on, perhaps her bra or skimpy top for instance. Then slowly remove this just when you are at the point of wanting to ejaculate.

Physical factors contributing to delayed ejaculation can include: Diabetes, surgery to the bladder, prostrate gland, increasing age, multiple sclerosis, and spinal injury. Additional causes known to cause this problem include: antidepressants, recreational drugs and alcohol. The first step to overcome this problem is to talk to your doctor.

Physical causes can usually be treated by your doctor. If medication is causing your problem he may be able to suggest an alternative. Psychological causes will need therapy and counselling using several techniques to try and overcome your problem. If you are trying to have a baby, artificial insemination (IVF) can be considered.

The Ejaculation Trainer offers help and advice to overcome premature ejaculation. Find out more HERE

Premature Ejaculation

Problems with Sex: Premature Ejaculation
by Wolfdave

Ejaculation is the squirting out of semen during sex (sexual climax). There are three main ejaculation problems which are quite common. These being: Premature Ejaculation, Delayed ejaculation and Retrograde ejaculation. The one which 30% of men experience at some time in their life is premature ejaculation or PE. This is when you come too quickly during sexual intercourse. This article focuses on premature ejaculation. You should always seek professional medical advice before taking any medications or using new techniques.

There have been many studies and surveys of this problem. A recent study covering five counties and over 500 couples, discovered that the average time from the start of sexual intercourse to ejaculation was just over 5 minutes. However, many experts suggest that setting a timescale for the duration of sexual intercourse is meaningless. They also agree that the individual and his partner should decide whether they are satisfied and happy with the time it takes for ejaculation, no matter how short or long that period is. Still, less than 2 minutes is a problem for both you and your partner. The normal average is about 7 minutes. Some couples however, claim less than 10 minutes is totally unacceptable. There is probably no point going to see your doctor if you can last 5 minutes, instead practice using distraction as a technique.

Causes of ejaculation problems can vary between individuals and can be complicated by having more than one cause. These can be physical or psychological, or both. If the man had a previous health problem that made an erection difficult, for instance, then anxiety over that condition can lead to premature ejaculation now. PE can be divided into two basic categories: Primary premature ejaculation – This is where a man as always experienced this problem since his first sexual activity. Secondary premature ejaculation – The problem has suddenly become an issue, where he has had a normal sexual experience in the past.

Primary PE psychological factors can be caused by early sexual activity that condition future sexual behaviour. For instance; a teenager may have wanted to ejaculate quickly in his early experiences, so has not to be caught doing it. This can make the habit difficult to break. Traumatic sexual experiences as a teenager can lead to anxiety, which in turn lead to ejaculation problems. These early traumas could be the result of being caught having sex or masturbating, or perhaps a more serious trauma, such as sexual abuse. Sometimes a strict upbringing can contribute to later difficulties. Where sex, may have been considered sinful, or only appropriate after marriage.

Experts have identified no physical cause leading to ‘life long’ primary premature ejaculation. However there may be physical issues that lead to temporary primary premature ejaculation and this should return to normal if the physical causes are treated.

Secondary premature ejaculation factors may include both psychological and physical issues. Psychological factors such has; unresolved problems at home or work for instance. Conflicts, or issues within a sexual relationship. Anxiety; often at the start of a new relationship. Also depression and stress can contribute to this problem. Physical factors can include: Diabetes, multiple sclerosis, prostrate disease, hypertension, under-active thyroid gland and drinking more than the recommended safe amounts of alcohol, using recreational drugs.

If you have an ejaculation problem that is leading to poor sexual behaviour for you and your partner, then the next step is to visit your doctor. He will discuss the problem with you and may examine you. He will probably ask questions about your family medical history, and conditions such as heart disease, high blood pressure and diabetes, your work and lifestyle. He will most likely ask or examine you for injuries to your pelvic area. Blood and urine samples may be taken to check your hormone and cholesterol levels and an examination of your prostrate gland may be carried out.

Your doctor should be able to offer treatment options for any physical condition causing your premature ejaculation. For psychological issues, he will probably recommend a number of self-help techniques you may wish to try. Successful outcomes are usually achieved if you persevere with these. They may include some or all of the following: Masturbating an hour or two before sexual intercourse, or, having sex a second time, a little later after premature ejaculation. Using a thicker condom to reduce sensation. Using a local anaesthetic spray, on the head of your penis, several minutes before sex. However, this can lead to irritation and inflammation to both the man and his partner. Take a deep breath and relax, to stop the ejaculation reflex. This method becomes more effective, the more you use it. Take a break during sexual intercourse and think boring thoughts, this requires strong will-power to do, in the heat of the moment. Have sex with your partner on top.

You can also learn ‘couples therapy’ whereby couples are shown techniques to help the man break the habit. Probably the two techniques most often practiced are the ‘squeeze technique’ and the ‘stop-go’ technique. They both require a lot of practice, which can be fun. The squeeze technique involves the partner masturbating the man, when he is close to ejaculation, the partner stops masturbating him and squeezes the head of the penis. After 10 to 20 seconds, she lets go and waits a further 30 seconds before masturbating him once more. This is repeated several times before ejaculation is allowed to happen. The stop-go technique is similar, but this time the partner does not squeeze the penis. Eventually the man will become more confident and able to control his ejaculation. Once this is achieved, normal intercourse can be resumed, stopping and starting as required.

Some medications are on the market to delay ejaculation. However, some carry side effects, including nausea, headaches, sleeping problems and in rare cases, suicidal thoughts. You should therefore seek medical supervision and advice before using these treatments.

It is widely believed that this problem has its origins way back to cavemen. Where the ability to quickly impregnate the female, was essential, if the male wanted to enlarge his tribe. The Ejaculation Trainer offers help and advice to overcome premature ejaculation. Find out more HERE